**Clip title: Sugarbaby Mindfucks You Into Submission** Once..

**Clip title: Sugarbaby Mindfucks You Into Submission** Once upon a time, men had a clear financial edge over women. For the first half of the 20th century in industrialized countries, the typical family configuration was that men were the primary participants in the formal economy and sole providers of the household, and women were responsible for unpaid domestic labour. Courtship and marriage was thereby largely determined by each gender's ability to adequately fulfil their respective roles. Women looked for men who could give them a financially comfortable and secure life, and men coveted women who would be good at running a household and raising children. Then World War II happened, which removed men from the workforce and onto the battlefields, in turn necessitating women to enter the workforce to fill the economic gap. Since then, society has never fully turned back to the breadwinner/homemaker model. And as time goes on, women are increasingly turning away from 'pink jobs' like administration, nursing, teaching, etc., and are becoming increasingly represented in the higher-earning professions like academia, law, medicine, corporate executive, and so forth. In some industries, women are even beginning to eclipse men in representation and earnings. What this means is that the financial edge men used to have over women in courtship and marriage is quickly waning. Yes, we are still a far stretch from gender parity, and the width of the gap is predicated on social locations (like race, class, sexuality, etc). But on the whole, men are quickly losing their financial leverage in courtship in marriage; as women become further economically empowered, we need to care much less about being 'taken care of' by a man. This is important as all social relationships are predicated on exchange. Marriage was once a trade of financial support from men for domestic labour from women. This made women beholden to unhealthy and unhappy marriages, as to leave this arrangement would be to submit oneself to poverty until a woman could find patronage under another providing husband. Add the stigma of divorce and you can understand why women of older generations rarely left toxic situations and persevered. Now that many women can often make money like men the bargaining dynamics have changed. Having money is a minimal but not wholly satisfactory requirement for being a good candidate on the dating market. But I think we've entered a very interesting time in society where most women don't need/desire the breadwinner/homemaker family model, yet men haven't fully let go of the desire to assume the patron position in a relationship. Put another way, women don't need men to provide as they once did in the past, but many men still want their money give them some sort of leverage in a relationship dynamic. This carves the path for a completely new dynamic which sees men striving to assume a provider role that most women technically don't need. And when someone is trying to trade something with you that you technically don't really need, you're at a new advantage. Enter: sugar dating. While some women do seek sugar daddies out of necessity, most women who participate are among the educated middle-class and often seek sugar daddies not only for money but also for social capital (like connections) and mentorship. Sugar dating is hilarious to watch because many men go into sugar dating expecting that their money is going to give them power and access to sex from a younger, hotter woman they otherwise couldn't get. In reality, they're entering a dating pool of some of the savviest women around, who aren't weakened by a need for money but see sugar daddies as a means to accelerate their own social mobility. Women know you like to feel that money gives you power. We know you yearn for the traditional arrangement of your own parents/grandparents, where you get to feel like we are tethered to you because you have a resource we want. We know you crave our dependence, you want to buy our sexual exclusivity. We know that you actually believe we really want and need you in our lives, and that because you provide the money, you get to call the shots. And we'll let you pretend all of this because it's part of the game. We're serving you an illusion, a fantasy. But the typical sugar baby doesn't actually need you or your money. She wants your money to grow her own wealth, but isn't going to do just anything to access it. She wants to deplete you of your resources while giving minimal in return, and will move onto the next fool like you who is equally desperate to access her. And she knows the power of her sexuality. She knows how weak you get when you're horny, and how you'll do almost anything when you get even the slightest hint that she may let you fuck her. She knows that you act like a big tough provider who wants to feel like he dictates the dynamic, but in reality she is the gatekeeper of sex and therefore the locus of power. She can make money without you, but it's a lot harder for you to access sex with a woman like her. At first, you're completely unaware of this because you're a dumb horny man not fit for the savvy mind of a woman who understands her power. But eventually the evidence of her mind fuck is becoming too hard to ignore. You're spending way more money than you anticipated, and that money seems to escape quicker and quicker as time moves on. But the best part of it all is that even as you slowly become aware that you are at the losing end of a bargain, you don't step out of it. You continue to give and give and give because the reality is that you never wanted to financially overpower a woman; you wanted to submit. And now you are owned by her, dependent on her, indebted to her even though she's given you so little. And so the tables have turned; women are no longer beholden to men for finances, yet men are still beholden to women sex and attention. Our pathway out of dependence was entering the workforce. You'll only stop being vulnerable to use when our sexuality and beauty has no hold on you. And I think it's fair to say that is not going to happen anytime soon. So, in the meantime, your best move is to submit; accept that your money is not yours - it's hers. And she's going to separate you from your money whether you like it or not, and not because she needs it, but simply because she can. Sit back, relax, and give in.